Day 356 ~ "Marriage"

What I Learned About Me... from A to Z

What have I learned about myself this past year {blogging}..?  hmmmm... First off... I would like to make sure you know up front... I never had blogged before until I started this blog 349 days ago.  Secondly... I never intended on learning anything.  HAHA! LOL!  No but seriously... It wasn't my intention...   Check out what my intention(s) were/are here.

So here goes... What I Learned About Me... from A to Z

"M" is for...  Marriage.     

Not that I did not know about marriage before blogging... I did.


What I do want to do is share a few things I have learned along the way.  Seems once you have survived an unhealthy relationship... you know how to avoid the same and strive to living a healthy one.

First off and most importantly is to "choose your battles" ... basically don't sweat the small stuff.  Included with this line of thought is "give and take".  

If you must fight... please fight fair.  Cursing and name calling are definitely NOT PERMITTED.  Words may be forgiven, yet never forgotten.  You can never take them back... once said, that's it.  So... set boundaries to fighting fair when you first are committed to one another and stick to them. 

Never go to sleep mad.  I know this is a tough one.. been there done that!  The goal here would be ... if you must, walk away... go for a walk... take a tour of your yard... cool off.  Take a look at the argument from your husband or wife's point of view. 

Please... there's definitely NO room for pride in marriage either... none whatsoever.  You must be able to apologize when deemed necessary [go on suck it up~ life's too short... especially if you know you're wrong] and no gloating on the receiving end either.  {it takes courage to apologize... don't you think?  last thing you want to hear is gloating.}

Don't forget... always kiss your love one good-bye when you're off to work.  {and} always ... always... tell them you love them each time you see them {and say good-bye}.

Take it from someone that has been married more than once {and has seen and been in my share of bad relationships} ... it's the little things in life that matter.  

We aren't here forever... let's love with all the desire to be loved.  


Let's be  married  the way we desire to be  married .

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
~ Mignon McLaughlin

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.  ~1 Peter 4:8 

Tomorrow...  What I Learned About Me... from A to Z ... the letter(s) "N" & "O". 

[here's to you finding your... ]

Peace...

9 days to go... {single digits!!...}

read about this count down in my "About my Blog" page

... for a, l & c.  you are my sunshine(s).

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Day 311 ~ "M" is for Message

"M" is for Message.   I have a message for you.  

No... my message is not an email, text or a tweet... and it's definitely not an error message either.  (geez, what is this world coming to?)  

I bet you thought I forgot about April's Message.  With my current challenge - Blogging from A to Z... I was thrown off on the first of April.  I had just found out literally days before about this challenge, and that it was starting, and I was so excited to get on the alphabet train...  wink, wink...

I think ... I think it was around the fifth of April (I was on the letter "E"), when I realized that I didn't do April's Message.  Before all hell broke loose I came up with a save.  wink, wink  

So now I am giving you a Message for April.

By the way... April already?  Really?  and we're half way through the month at that!

So... let's do a recap here...

January's message...This above all:  to thine ownself be true.

February's message... Keep  your eye on the goal, and don't let anything distract you.

March 2012's message... Anyone Who Says She Doesn't Need a Girlfriend Just Hasn't Found a Good One Yet..

Now for this month's message...

April 2012's message:

~ If you want rainbows, you gotta have rain.

In a perfect world, everything would always go right.  There would be no disappointment or trials, and life would be filled with only sweet, warm, and fuzzy feelings.

But how would we know if things were good if we had no comparison?  Would we recognize the blessings in our lives without having the opposite to compare them to?  Without the darkness, would we appreciate the light?

Seems to me if we want rainbows, we gotta have rain.  The trick is to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and go out and look for puddles to play in; recognize the tempest for what it is and train ourselves to look for the good in every situation.  By overcoming our adversity, we find the joy in everything.  So go on, go play in the rain!  

~  Suzy Toronto 

Suzy Toronto ©

Need I say more?  I think that Suzy pretty much said it all.  

and...Let me tell you... I have seen the dark side!  Forget Darth!  This is my line [now]!

Blogging A to Z Challenge April 2012... What will "N" have for us on Monday?

Blessings to all!!

54 days to go...  (This is starting to become bitter-sweet)

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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