Day 329 ~ What!? No Tone? Just Ask.

Have you ever said something and had it taken the wrong way?  Better yet, can you tell if someone misunderstands you when you are speaking face to face to them?  Usually you can tell by their response or that whacked out look on their face... (slight sarcasm) and it can be remedied  with a mere explanation, right?  Right.

Now... have you ever written something with the intention of meaning one thing (white) and have it taken completely wrong (black)?  Not that THAT has happened to me, but close enough.  

I have found that when I am face to face with someone and (of course) I am tuned in to their responses, body language and tone in their voice, and I can pretty much respond immediately to any misunderstanding.  [Okay, so there have been a few times I miss the cue and don't get it until that night... BUT...] I immediately back track, and explain myself.  I will even draw pictures if I have too.  (sarcasm, trying to be funny..lol)

That is face to face.  Simple enough, right?  Right.  With writing... IT'S ANOTHER STORY!!  

As a writer (because I do write my blog, therefore I am a writer- I say this because one of my fellow bloggers was told she wasn't a writer... WHAT!!!  SERIOUSLY!!??  That's exactly what I thought!) my main goal is to get a message across to my reader. That includes s-a-r-c-a-s-m, humor, coloring words, emphasizing where needed and being sympathetic when called for.

However, sometimes that is not enough.  HELLOOO! (sarcasm). As shown, I have started implementing descriptions within parenthesis to avoid misunderstandings.  Not only for the reader, but myself as well.

When I am writing, it's as if I dictate to myself... I talk in my head, and I type what I hear.  {I think it's funny}... If you ask me, it sounds crazy.  Whatever I hear, I write, tone and all.    {It's as if I have little voices in my head! oooooo ooooo (trying to be funny, with a little sarcasm)}  After I'm done, I usually re-read what I have written and emphasize tone and meaning and adjust accordingly.  Then I hope to God I didn't miss anything and I get my message across AS INTENDED.

I don't know about you, but I can be silly, sarcastic, goofy and love life to be fun.  

   

SO with that said... I certainly hope I have gotten my message across.  Sure, I know that I have my opinions, as do you.  Right?  Right.  {I thought you'd agree with me.}  (attempt at a little humor,with a chuckle)

Honestly, I just want to be understood.  I mean no harm.  No harm to anyone.  If anything I want to help! (big smile)

SOOOOOO... if by chance there is a day that I may have forgotten a parenthesis or two, or didn't color my words... PLEASE do not jump to conclusions (not even in real life please) ... PLEASE ask.  Email me, ask me... "Carla, what were you thinking?  Did you mean...?"

Real life is no different... if you don't get it OR if you think.... "OH NO SHE DIDN'T!"  (little humor) PLEASE... please ask.  Not just if it's me... if it's someone you know... ASK.  Sometimes you may think that you understood one thing, and after asking ... you find out how off you were.  More importantly, you avoided a HUGE misunderstanding.  

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.  ~Albert Einstein

Understanding is a two-way street.                                                                  ~Eleanor Roosevelt

It isn't until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are - not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within - that you can begin to take control.  ~Oprah Winfrey

Blessings to all,

36 days to go...  

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Day 321 ~ "U"nderstanding

"U" is for Understanding.  

First thing... let's see what Miriam-Webster has to say about my chosen "U" word.

noun 1 :a small grasp  :comprehension

2 a  :the power of comprehending; especially  :the capacity to apprehend general relations of particular

b  :friendly or harmonious relationship

adjective 1 archaeic :knowing, intelligent

2 :endowed with understanding :tolerant, sympathetic <an understanding supervisor>

transitive verb a : to grasp the meaning of <understanding Russian>

b :to grasp the reasonableness of <his behavior is hard to understand>

I know, a little overkill.  As I've said before... bare with me.  lol.

When I hear this word, I also hear serenity, calmness and in some instances faith.

There is some sense of serenity when it comes to understanding.  Think about it, once you truly understand something which you have battled to comprehend don't you start to calm down?  Not to imply that you completely just lost it and threw a temper tantrum... but you do get a little agitated by comparison.  

Therefore coming to an understanding with yourself, understanding a task or a concept that was once difficult to do so, brings on serenity itself.

Furthermore, when an obstacle presents itself in your life, one that has you scratching your head... and when you finally come to the understanding that you must let go, let God... that faith there is what helped me to come to that initial understanding. 

I realize now there were times in my life that a little understanding would have gone a long way, and what a difference that would have made in my life too!  

Yet, another example of further understanding of the "understanding" process as yet another sign of aging! LOL! 

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.

~Albert Einstein

Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.

~Mahatma Gandhi

To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.

~Tony Robbins

Blogging A to Z Challenge April 2012... What will "V" bring us tomorrow?

44 days to go...  

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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