Day 329 ~ What!? No Tone? Just Ask.

Have you ever said something and had it taken the wrong way?  Better yet, can you tell if someone misunderstands you when you are speaking face to face to them?  Usually you can tell by their response or that whacked out look on their face... (slight sarcasm) and it can be remedied  with a mere explanation, right?  Right.

Now... have you ever written something with the intention of meaning one thing (white) and have it taken completely wrong (black)?  Not that THAT has happened to me, but close enough.  

I have found that when I am face to face with someone and (of course) I am tuned in to their responses, body language and tone in their voice, and I can pretty much respond immediately to any misunderstanding.  [Okay, so there have been a few times I miss the cue and don't get it until that night... BUT...] I immediately back track, and explain myself.  I will even draw pictures if I have too.  (sarcasm, trying to be funny..lol)

That is face to face.  Simple enough, right?  Right.  With writing... IT'S ANOTHER STORY!!  

As a writer (because I do write my blog, therefore I am a writer- I say this because one of my fellow bloggers was told she wasn't a writer... WHAT!!!  SERIOUSLY!!??  That's exactly what I thought!) my main goal is to get a message across to my reader. That includes s-a-r-c-a-s-m, humor, coloring words, emphasizing where needed and being sympathetic when called for.

However, sometimes that is not enough.  HELLOOO! (sarcasm). As shown, I have started implementing descriptions within parenthesis to avoid misunderstandings.  Not only for the reader, but myself as well.

When I am writing, it's as if I dictate to myself... I talk in my head, and I type what I hear.  {I think it's funny}... If you ask me, it sounds crazy.  Whatever I hear, I write, tone and all.    {It's as if I have little voices in my head! oooooo ooooo (trying to be funny, with a little sarcasm)}  After I'm done, I usually re-read what I have written and emphasize tone and meaning and adjust accordingly.  Then I hope to God I didn't miss anything and I get my message across AS INTENDED.

I don't know about you, but I can be silly, sarcastic, goofy and love life to be fun.  

   

SO with that said... I certainly hope I have gotten my message across.  Sure, I know that I have my opinions, as do you.  Right?  Right.  {I thought you'd agree with me.}  (attempt at a little humor,with a chuckle)

Honestly, I just want to be understood.  I mean no harm.  No harm to anyone.  If anything I want to help! (big smile)

SOOOOOO... if by chance there is a day that I may have forgotten a parenthesis or two, or didn't color my words... PLEASE do not jump to conclusions (not even in real life please) ... PLEASE ask.  Email me, ask me... "Carla, what were you thinking?  Did you mean...?"

Real life is no different... if you don't get it OR if you think.... "OH NO SHE DIDN'T!"  (little humor) PLEASE... please ask.  Not just if it's me... if it's someone you know... ASK.  Sometimes you may think that you understood one thing, and after asking ... you find out how off you were.  More importantly, you avoided a HUGE misunderstanding.  

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.  ~Albert Einstein

Understanding is a two-way street.                                                                  ~Eleanor Roosevelt

It isn't until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are - not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within - that you can begin to take control.  ~Oprah Winfrey

Blessings to all,

36 days to go...  

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Day 66 ~ Who Me? Sarcastic? ... Noooo... ;)

You know... I was just thinking... I just finished reading yesterday's post, and I laughed!!  Oh no... don't get me wrong... I sure came off like a bi#@#... Well, that certainly wasn't my intention. Oh no... no weird evil comments or anything like that has made me expand on last night's post or anything...

I just wish there was a sarcasm button sometimes.  It's not like you, the reader, can hear the conversations I have with my laptop while I am writing [this]... and quite honestly I do not want to come across arrogant either [because I certainly am the furthest thing from that]...  So, that's where I am coming from.

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Please, do not misunderstand me either... I stand by everything I write and am not taking anything back of what I wrote yesterday...  I just want you to know that I am sarcastic by nature, and if I was reading this to you out loud you would hear the sarcastic manner or joking tone I tend to have.  Maybe I'll have to insert some goofy pictures or icons when I am joking.  (LOL!)  

Oh, and by the way, I'm not joking about joking around, having a good laugh or about being sarcastic... however, I am never mean!

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Besides, if your laughing, negativity just went out the window!! ... I think it makes sense.  I also once read somewhere that you should laugh at least once every hour... huge stress reducer! and great for the soul.  

One that note...  I am going to end my post tonight on a happy note tonight...

Three small rules for living a happy life

1. Start each day with a grateful heart.
2. Focus on the positive aspects of every person you encounter.
3. End each day with a grateful heart. 

~  Lucy MacDonald

I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose.                          ~  Woody Allen

If every word I said could make you laugh, I´d talk forever.   ~  The Beach Boys

  

Blessings to all!!

299 days to go.

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