Day 500 ~ Time & Intimacy (XIII)

Day 13 of the Husband Encouragement Challenge
courtesy of ReviveOurHearts.com

"I belong to mybeloved, and his desire is for me ." (Song of Solomon 7:10) 

• You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband . . . or to anyone else, about your husband.
• Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your husband . . . and to someone else, about your husband!

The sexual relationship. It's one of those elements—along with money and children—that can derail a marriage through negative comments. Negativity destroys intimacy, but encouragement builds and strengthens the marriage bond.

Let's get practical here. Is your husband a "good lover"? Have you told him so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage.

In moments of intimacy, do you find your mind wandering? This can change as you focus on something wonderful about your husband. Realize that your husband wants intimacy with you . . . his desire is toward you.

Does this area of your marriage need some work? Remember that this is a sensitive area for men. Be sure to encourage his lovemaking and masculinity in positive ways. 

Day 13 ! . . .    

I'm going to keep this simple and not let it get too wordy.  

I could not agree more that this is a sensitive area for most... sensitive and a little akward for most to speak of openly.- myself included.

I know this is getting a little personal... just a little - wink, wink.

I will say this... I need to make more time for my husband and make the effort to be on the same page with him.

What I mean is that I am going, going and going all day long.  I take Calley to school, then pick her up and all that's in between having to do with The Blessed Spoon.

{and}. . . 

My hubby is up at dawn and off to work before we even get out of bed; works for four to five hours; then goes and works a second job; and then back for another four hours or so... and gets home anywhere from 7:30 to 8:30 each evening.  The man gets home exhausted!!  

Calley's in bed by 7:30; I do my nightly blog writing and finish and Blessed Spoon business; and hit the sack by 9:00p

Hubby on the other hand needs un-winding time, a little time at the guitar and music mixer (he's always creating music- his second love ... wink, wink.); and then if there's a MMA or UFC fight you can find him glued to his tv chair! -  {and} really I do not blame him one bit for wanting to kick back in the evenings.  

SOOOooo . . .  as I said the hubby and I need to get on the same page or just spend a litle "exhausting" time together!!  BIG SMILE!!

On another note... I just wanted to do a little celebrating here... DAY 500!!!  WOW!! I can't believe what a great milestone!!!  YUP-PEE!!!!  

Here's to 500 more!!  

What a fabulous growing experience this has been and continues to be.  Not to mention all the wonderful people that are crossing my path.  Thank you for being a part of such a wonderful journey.

[here's to you finding your... ]

Peace...

I am second..

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Day 320 ~ "T" ... T ... Time...

"T" is for Time... TIME... 

noun... the measured or measurable period during which an action, process, or condition exists or continues : duration

verb... to arrange or set the time of : schedule

adjective... of or relating to time

The first thing that comes to my mind relating to time is being late.  I am horrified about being late, or rather being on time.

My very first memories where time itself was an issue, was that of my father complaining of how my mother was always late to everything.  

Now... when "time" became a sensitive issue to me was when I was in grade school.  Third grade or so.  My brother, sister and I lived in Santa Monica with our mother, across the street from my elementary school.  I was late everyday!  

Yes.  I was late every day.  Every day I was horrified to walk into class.  Every day I was teased and ridiculed because of it...  

I share this with you all very matter of fact.  It doesn't bother me anymore.  That was then.  Now is now.  

As long as I can remember... I have always given myself plenty of time to be on time.

Furthermore... 

I firmly believe that when an appointment is made... when YOU have made an appointment... from the moment that time is set... from the moment that block of time has been set aside especially for you...the least you can do is be on time in appreciation for said action.

... this person whom you are meeting with has taken the time to set a block of time aside especially for you...

With that said... when "a person" is late, "they" are more or less telling the person with whom 'they" have set an appointment with that they do not matter.  

Obviously, you need something from this person (or company they represent) otherwise why meet?

I know that everyone has their own opinion... 

Me... my goal is to be on time, every time.  This is their first impression of our meeting together, and it should be a positive one.  What I need out of our encounter matters to me.  

By being on time, think of it as a nice way of saying thank you for their time and what they say matters to you.

On another note... time can have a bad rap by either moving too slow or not fast enough.  Time has had a reputation for creeping up on a person.  You can even say that at times there's not enough of time, and then on the other hand there are others who just can not wait for time to just pass.  

Time is good to some, while leaving others at its mercy. 

Time brings all things to pass.
~Aeschylus

Blogging A to Z Challenge April 2012... What will "U" bring us tomorrow?

45 days to go...  

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Day 154 ~ Always Having A Clean Slate

Time truly got away from me tonight.  There aren't many times at all that I am able to write during the day... very few really.  Try writing with a naturally hyper five year old little girl... not going to happen!

My li'l "Super Star!" 

I wish I was able to write more during the day, although it really is nice ending my day here.  There;s is something to be said about going to bed with a "clean slate," as well as "peace of mind."

Needless to say, my writing time comes at the end of my day, after Calley has gone to bed.  Then there's those nights that she won't go to bed right away and continue to get up for either water, bathroom or the new excuse lately is a "late night snack!"  Just as I sit down to write... "Mom...my.... Mom...my..."   Come to think about it, seems like its been few nights since this has happened... I hope I didn't just 'jinx' it!

That's right, unfortunately I do not have the time to sit at my computer all day... fortunately "life happens."  Between teaching Calley (home schooling,) keeping the house clean, preparing meals, helping my in laws with whatever comes up whenever it comes up, my blog and any other unexpected obstacle that life may throw at me, I'd say I have my plate pretty full.

Another thing I have noticed is that the last few days that I have been working on the design of my blog, soon to be unveiled, the time that I have to actually write has been infringed upon.  I get into working on the design and I loose track of time.... hence my writing time has been infringed upon!  

Don't worry... not only will the new look speak for itself, but I will make it up to you as well.  I have a few new things cooking up... Oh and then there will be my sister's up and coming visit.  That should give me something to write about... just think, I have not really had a good relationship since we were very young.  

God’s voice thunders in marvelous ways; he does great things beyond our understanding. He says to the snow, ‘Fall on the earth, and to the rain shower, ‘Be a mighty downpour.'   ~ Job 37:5-6  (NIV)

I am thankful for having the ability to see the difference between good and bad.

Blessings to all!!

211 days to go...

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Day 124 ~ You Only Live Once...

Sometimes I just can't wrap my head around a persons's actions, let alone their non-actions.

I found myself scratching my head more and more as my day went on today... why is it that some people do not find it important to trade dialogue... this is what some people call having a conversation or possibly a discussion about recent events... good or bad.  

All I ask... which I really don't think that I am being unreasonable... is that if something bothers you, then let's talk!  We may have mixed our signals ...

Listen, I know that most people are uncomfortable approaching a family member, a friend or even a coworker, over a misunderstanding, let alone if they have been wronged against.  It's a tough position to be put in ~ been there done that... however, if one thinks about it and takes a gentle approach at the situation, before it festers, I think we can learn to understand one another...  and more importantly there would not be any time loss.   

I mean, I have the perfect example, my sister and I, and please realize that the dynamics of our relationship were a little more complicated than not... we lost 25 plus years;  my sons and I have been estranged two years, however, since July there has been some communication on and off... currently it seems as if we are off.  (sad face)

The saddest part of both of my sons' estrangement with me is the part that is affecting their relationship with Calley ~ their little sister.  

Calley is such a darling little girl.  A little girl who talks about her brothers everyday with such adoration, including them in her prayers as well.  Calley is having her fifth birthday in three days and the last time she saw her brothers was just shortly after turning two.

For these reasons... I do my best at apologizing when I am in the wrong, and then practicing the art of tolerance and forgiving those other times.  Not only that, but... You Only Live Once!

There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.     ~  Bryant H. McGill

Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.  ~  Tom Robbins

Tolerance is the virtue of the man without convictions.    ~  G.K. Chesterton

Blessings to all!!

241 days to go...

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Day 84 ~ Tomorrow I Will Do Better

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Can you say exhausted?  There are a few things that are great about being busy... first, you don't have time to think about things- you have to act now, and think later!   Then.. time goes by fast!  Granted, you never want to wish time away.  Just trust me - time does just fine on its own.  Finally, you often loose weight because half the time you forget to eat.  (wink, wink!)

Well... now there's something old to consider... life.  Regardless of what is going on at the moment... hence being there for my mother in law... I still have to take care of my own life.

Prior to Nana's passing, I had plans.  Learning more and more about the type of woman Nana was, I am compelled on moving forward in her name. 

I need to get back on track, move forward in order to accomplish what I want and expect from myself.  

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First thing is first.  I will continue to write my blog and continue to heal.  My other project...~ I will be doing is a Lifestyle Change which is meant to do a redesign of my diet and exercise routine so that I may lead a healthy lifestyle.  My LifeStyle Change Redesign will also include a blog.  I had planned to start this the first of September and would last through March.

My wii Fit Plus 21-day Challenge was just that... a challenge.  In the 21 days I was able to loose just under nine pounds.  Six pounds shy of my goal.  Even so... I felt great, although it was a crazy challenge.  Especially when I had set out to work out twenty-one days in a row without a break- which I did complete!!  (big smile!)

As I think about what is yet to come... I stop right there.  I am not going to over analyze anything, especially when I'm so tired.  I am just going to finish this post up, relax and finish my tea, thank the Lord for my day, and have faith that tomorrow... well, I will do at least one thing to make it a better day than today.

       “Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.”    ~    Mary Anne Radmacher

 “What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.”       Buddha

 “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely...”        Ralph Waldo Emerson

 Blessings to all! 

281 days to go

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Day 56 ~ Don't Wish Away Time... Enjoy It!

I have come to the conclusion that I hate how we have to anticipate for days on end for great things we are waiting to happen... i.e. a wedding, vacation, or even a special date... and I hate it even more that when that moment finally comes, before you know it... in a blink of an eye... it's over!

Granted we still have thirty-six hours left in Pointe Dume... in Los Angeles for that matter... in which we will savor every minute left.  We will soak in every sun ray, breath as much ocean air as we can and truly enjoy all of our family and friends... but before you know it ... that dreaded moment will be here and we will have to head back home to reality.

Funny thing, time...  It can be your friend for the most part, then as quick as you came to enjoy it... WHAM-O! The rug gets pulled right out from under you as it all of a sudden sneaks up on you... and the fun is all over!

So, with all that said... instead of complaining that my time here is almost over...  I will savor each moment I do have left here with Dean and Calley, sharing it with family and friends... soaking in as much as their love as possible!! to take back with me!

Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.

Be confident enough that you won't settle for a compromise just to get by.

Laugh at your mistakes and praise yourself for learning from them 

Make every day count.  Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. 

Blessings to all!!

309 days to go.

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