Day 330 ~ Finding My Purpose

I have so much to say tonight and am having trouble trying to figure out where to start.  Chuckle.  No Seriously.  How about at the beginning?  lol!  {humor/sarcasm- joking? lol-- whatever!!!} haha 

I started tonight's post like any other night by "typing" the day in the title... "Day 3-3-0"...

[okay... that's it!... do we say  "I am typing?", "I am keyboarding?" or "is it a keyboard we are typing on?" ]

I'm not green at computers either.  I've had a computer, worked with computers, been around computers, build... fixed... sold computers... I have had computers all over the place... used them as desks for my kids... used them as lunch tables for my kids... I, have even eaten meals on computers... all since the mid 80s... all thanks to my father.  Come to think of it, in all those years never have we referred to "it" as "keyboarding"... maybe "data entry", which my "typing", "stroking of the keys" or "hitting the keys"... is not.  I am not doing data entry, I am trying to put out a decent thought.  (attempt at humor, sarcasm, or a combination of both, lol!) Whatever... I am "typing".  I am going to call it "typing" because I am just that old (haha)... besides it flows better.  There.  That's that.  lol

"Day 3-3-0"... WOW!  I have to share with you that I just had the last 330 days flash before me.  Honestly... I feel unbelievable!  I feel I have grown so much... granted I have so much more to go... but...


It's like all my "aha" moments have come together similar to a choir singing "Hallelujah!"  

I have really been applying and repeating to myself all that I have learned, and continue to learn on Oprah's LifeClass... as I shared with you on Day 326, which you can read about it here.

The flash was about all I have shared here... my good days... my bad days... memories... experiences... love... anger... hurt... deception... I even had some dark days too.  Huh!  I even stopped talking to "certain" family or people... lol!  It's done.  It's over.  It's in the past.

Today, I think about everything that has hurt me... my trials and tribulations and I accept it all.  YES, I accept it.  The pain that I have endured throughout my life has shown me that if I did not love so much... care so much... then I would not be capable of loving so much.  

[In other words, if I am not complicating things to much here by elaborating that I must love a whole lot, and I must care so much... because otherwise it would not have hurt so much!]

Instead of telling the same story over and over again, I am going to change it around a bit. Because of the hurt, experience and knowledge I have gained from my "experiences"... I will use this to help other families get through their troubled times.

So... as I look at "Day 3-3-0" I think of how I have grown as a person.  I think of the faith that has grown inside of me... I think of how grateful I am for being who and where I am.

I am here for a purpose... and it's time to put it to use!  wink, wink.

The purpose of our lives is to be happy.

~Dalai Lama

The main purpose of life is to live rightly, think rightly, act rightly. The soul must languish when we give all our thought to the body. ~Mahatma Gandhi

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.

~Dalai Lama

Blessings...

35 days to go...  

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Day 329 ~ What!? No Tone? Just Ask.

Have you ever said something and had it taken the wrong way?  Better yet, can you tell if someone misunderstands you when you are speaking face to face to them?  Usually you can tell by their response or that whacked out look on their face... (slight sarcasm) and it can be remedied  with a mere explanation, right?  Right.

Now... have you ever written something with the intention of meaning one thing (white) and have it taken completely wrong (black)?  Not that THAT has happened to me, but close enough.  

I have found that when I am face to face with someone and (of course) I am tuned in to their responses, body language and tone in their voice, and I can pretty much respond immediately to any misunderstanding.  [Okay, so there have been a few times I miss the cue and don't get it until that night... BUT...] I immediately back track, and explain myself.  I will even draw pictures if I have too.  (sarcasm, trying to be funny..lol)

That is face to face.  Simple enough, right?  Right.  With writing... IT'S ANOTHER STORY!!  

As a writer (because I do write my blog, therefore I am a writer- I say this because one of my fellow bloggers was told she wasn't a writer... WHAT!!!  SERIOUSLY!!??  That's exactly what I thought!) my main goal is to get a message across to my reader. That includes s-a-r-c-a-s-m, humor, coloring words, emphasizing where needed and being sympathetic when called for.

However, sometimes that is not enough.  HELLOOO! (sarcasm). As shown, I have started implementing descriptions within parenthesis to avoid misunderstandings.  Not only for the reader, but myself as well.

When I am writing, it's as if I dictate to myself... I talk in my head, and I type what I hear.  {I think it's funny}... If you ask me, it sounds crazy.  Whatever I hear, I write, tone and all.    {It's as if I have little voices in my head! oooooo ooooo (trying to be funny, with a little sarcasm)}  After I'm done, I usually re-read what I have written and emphasize tone and meaning and adjust accordingly.  Then I hope to God I didn't miss anything and I get my message across AS INTENDED.

I don't know about you, but I can be silly, sarcastic, goofy and love life to be fun.  

   

SO with that said... I certainly hope I have gotten my message across.  Sure, I know that I have my opinions, as do you.  Right?  Right.  {I thought you'd agree with me.}  (attempt at a little humor,with a chuckle)

Honestly, I just want to be understood.  I mean no harm.  No harm to anyone.  If anything I want to help! (big smile)

SOOOOOO... if by chance there is a day that I may have forgotten a parenthesis or two, or didn't color my words... PLEASE do not jump to conclusions (not even in real life please) ... PLEASE ask.  Email me, ask me... "Carla, what were you thinking?  Did you mean...?"

Real life is no different... if you don't get it OR if you think.... "OH NO SHE DIDN'T!"  (little humor) PLEASE... please ask.  Not just if it's me... if it's someone you know... ASK.  Sometimes you may think that you understood one thing, and after asking ... you find out how off you were.  More importantly, you avoided a HUGE misunderstanding.  

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.  ~Albert Einstein

Understanding is a two-way street.                                                                  ~Eleanor Roosevelt

It isn't until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are - not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within - that you can begin to take control.  ~Oprah Winfrey

Blessings to all,

36 days to go...  

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Day 328 ~ May's Message

May.  May. May? Yes, May.  Holy Cow!  Lol!  


Several researchers have written that the older you get, the faster time goes by.  [click here to read more on this.]  I'm here to attest this to be true.  hahahaha  At least, as I am getting "older" I have noticed this to be true.

I sit here five months into the year in disbelief that it's so, time is going by quicker (or at least it seems so).  Having said that, I am going to try to slow down a bit so I may appreciate each moment as it manifests itself.


So... let's do a recap here...

January's message...This above all:  to thine ownself be true.

February's message... Keep  your eye on the goal, and don't let anything distract you.

March 2012's message... Anyone Who Says She Doesn't Need a Girlfriend Just 

Hasn't Found a Good One Yet..

April 2012's message... If you want rainbows, you gotta have rain. 

Now for this month's message...

May 2012's message:

~ Never underestimate the power of a "Hissie Fit".

Life is all about give and take.  But some issues can't be compromised.  When the situation calls for drastic and dramatic measures, you have to draw a line in the sand, climb up on a soapbox, and protect the hill you're will to die on.

It's not easy... anything worth fighting for never is.  But the most noble thing you can do is stand up for what is right, no matter the cost.

The problem is your voice can drown amid the roar of the masses.  Once in a while you have to stomp your feet, scream at the top of your lungs, and throw a few lightening bolts to be heard.  Never underestimate the power of a "hissie fit." 

 ~  Suzy Toronto 

I did this once, with my son.  What happened then was that he didn't speak to me for over two years.

Would I stand up for what was right knowing how I would be treated in the end, again?  Yes.  Yes, I would.  Maybe I would have handled things a little more diplomatic, with the end result being the same.  

What would I be teaching my sons (and daughter), let alone showing them, if I didn't?  

Honestly speaking, I feel proud that I stood my ground and sleep well because of it.  

I am grateful for this experience because it showed me that I love my son(s) enough not to sacrifice what is right.  Thank you Lord.   

[ooo ... ooo ... I think I am growing up!  lol  ;)  ]

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.  ~ Proverbs 31:8-9

Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.  Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.  ~Matthew 5:10-12

Blessings to all,

37 days to go...  

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

Images are courtesy of google or Bing images.  Some images maybe labeled property of Carla Barila Karam and of this blog, Taking Back My Life ~ Making It My Own.  U.S Copyright laws apply.  © 2012