Monday, July 23, 2012

Day 411 ~ #4 of My 30 Days of Truth...

My 30 Days of Truth challenge   I will admit that I changed one question and changed a few curse words... other than that the challenge is intact. 

Day 4 : Something you have to forgive someone for.

Boy ... I sure have beat this one to death.. that's for sure!  I have been thinking about who I should forgive what for all day!

This question really has weighed heavy on my heart more than any other question to date...

After all...  who says "who" deserves forgiveness more than "whom"?  Just as I have said time and time again I am not God... I do not have the right to judge someone else.. after all I am not perfect myself.

I love the quote "those who live in glass houses should not throw stones"... so fitting of this question, don't you think?  wink, wink.

Soooo... Who do I forgive?  ...  After much thought and consideration... I forgive everyone.

Yes... you read right... I forgive everyone.

Doesn't matter who you are... what was done... what was said... what boundaries crossed... feelings hurt... stones thrown... conclusions jumped... and all other unknown entities caused...

I forgive one and all.  


How releasing!  ...  How rejuvenating!  ...  What an unbelievable feeling!! ...  What a feeling of freedom!
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  ~ Matthew 6:14 (NIV)
I would like to add in closing that I always choose my quote for each my posts after I have finished writing.  I find it really awesome that I found this particular bible verse.  What is awesome about it is that I decided to forgive everyone without knowing what the benefits of "forgiving" would bring me.  How fitting. 

July 24th, 2012... an after thought...
I am speaking of forgiveness above.  Forgiving others to be exact.  I spoke quite generously about... point blank... forgiving all who had done me wrong.

I would like to make this perfectly clear.  I am not doing this for "them"... I am doing this for me.  More so because I am tired of walking around having all this negativity within my soul.  I am doing this to free myself from all the wrong in the world.

I hope to be able to free myself from the "baggage" that has dragged me down... the events that took the sparkle out of my eyes and also took the soul out of my laughter.

July 27th, 2012 ... more thoughts on forgiveness..
Since writing the above I have been confronted with my words.  I have been put in situations that have made me think of forgiveness, or the lack there of.

It is not easy to forgive.  When a thought entered my mind, which then in turn has made me think of this post... well... bottom line... if I can not forgive others, how do I expect to be forgiven for my own sins?

That final though alone makes me work harder to forgive others.  After all what do I keep telling myself?  It's in the past and I can not do anything about.  If I do not put it behind me, it will affect my future.

what's next? ...
Day 01 : Something you hate about yourself.
Day 02 : Something you love about yourself.
Day 03 : Something you have to forgive yourself for.
Day 04 : Something you have to forgive someone for.
Day 05 : Something you hope to do in your life.
Day 06 : Something you hope you never have to do.
Day 07 : Someone who has made your life worth living for.
Day 08 : Someone who made your life hell, or treated you horribly.
Day 09 : Someone you didn't want to let go, but just drifted.
Day 10 : Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.
Day 11 : Something people seem to compliment you the most on.
Day 12 : Something you never get compliments on.
Day 13 : A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough days. (write a letter.)
Day 14 : A hero that has let you down. (letter)
Day 15 : Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you've tried living without it.
Day 16 : Someone or something you definitely could live without.
Day 17 : A book you’ve read that changed your views on something.
Day 18 : Your views on gay marriage.
Day 19 : What do you think of religion?  Or what do you think of politics?
Day 20 : Your views on drugs and alcohol.
Day 21 : (scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?
Day 22 : Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life.
Day 23 : Something you wish you had done in your life.
Day 24 : Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter)
Day 25 : The reason you believe you’re still alive today.
Day 26 : Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why?
Day 27 : What’s the best thing going for you right now?
Day 28 : Name a decision you made that caused a chain of events that would not have happened if it wasn't for that decision.
Day 29 : Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.
Day 30 : A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself
Hey if you want to join along... well let me know in a comment and I'll visit your challenge each day.  We could even link up our blogs.  wink, wink.  No.. seriously we could.

Here's to my 30 Days of Truth challenge!

I am second.

[here's to you finding your... ]


... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Christine D. | The Plumed Nest said...

I am sure that there are a lot of people I need to forgive . . . well maybe just a few. And I have but then they exhibit the same behaviors and on and on. So I am totally willing to forgive I just might wait awhile ; )

mail4rosey said...

It was a blanket statement to make, but it could serve us all well to do the same! Love it, love it, love it!!

Cheryl said...

It is the only way to live! When we don't forgive bitterness can grow in us. Forgiving is different from dismissing the act, some one can steal and still be forgiven and go to jail. Jail is a consequence of the action. Sometimes people think forgiving is letting someone of the hook totally no consequences but those are too totally different things. Love your post.

Courtney G said...

I don't think I honestly forgive people for really poor behavior. I don't let it get to me, but deep down, if you gave me truth serum, I would say they are not forgiven. Oh the truth hurts, doesn't it!;)

Mommys Juice said...

I've really enjoyed your blog. Each time I read it I have so much to think about. Thanks for sharing!

Amanda said...

I guess I'm not as nice as you, I tend to hold grudges even when I know I need to forgive.

Audra Michelle said...

It is so hard to continue the forgiveness. The initial feeling is usually awesome. Then life happens. I give it all over to God then find myself yanking it back time and time again. Forgiveness is definitely a choice and is definitely for the forgiver - not for the forgiven. When I struggle with forgiveness, it helps me to remember all God has forgiven ME for.

Mrs. Settles said...

Sooooo much of the time we are quick to say we forgive someone, but we have a knack for not forgetting! The enemy likes to use these memories to bring resentment and bitterness into our hearts and minds. As difficult as it is, I must learn to forget or else I never really forgive.


April said...

Its' definitely true when they say that forgiveness if not for THEM...forgiveness is for yourself. Great post!

Pepper said...

One person comes to mind when I'm faced with the challenge of forgiving others: my mother. It is extremely difficult, but feasible. True, we can't move forward in life and enjoy whatever joy is in store for us if we don't forgive the ones who have hurt us. I can imagine how liberating that would feel... Now, if only I can bring myself to finally do it. God help me...

mail4rosey said...

Lack of forgiveness doesn't just affect us, it affects others.

I have to forgive someone who should be very close to me for something very serious. It weighs on my shoulders to forgive her. But I haven't, and it doesn't just affect me. Others who should be close to the person I'm speaking of, are not anymore because I am not. And that's something I cannot take back. It's really hard to take that step when you're scared to be hurt, or have been hurt so badly you don't want to try again.

Your post is a good reminder that regardless of the effort it takes...preventing future hurt that is unnecessary could be as easy as forgiving.