Sunday, December 4, 2011

Day 179 ~ The Naughty or Nice List

I never once thought that being a mom to a little girl would be so "crazy" compared to being a mom to two boys.  I am sure that you would tell me to take into consideration that there are fifteen years between Calley and Logan, and nineteen between her and Addison.

Oh I know I am older... believe me I know.  Then to put the icing on the cake, I am starting to show signs of perimenopause.  Let me tell you, between the hot flashes, mood swings and then Calley being such a curious and active little girl... AAAHHH CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!  

Earlier today, Calley was being naughty and I really snapped at her (deservingly so) ... after giving it some thought i thought to myself "I can be a bitch!"  Even if Calley is constantly touching things and disobeying, it doesn't make it okay for me to raise my voice to her constantly.  Or is it?

I really do not want her to remember me, the same as I remember my father... constantly raising his voice and just being plain mean (just to mention a couple of things.)

I guess one thing I do differently than what my father did...  I take a few minutes to cool down, I talk to Calley and try to reason with her, and then I do something with her.  I try to keep it low key, after all I do not want to reward the behavior that got her into trouble in the first place.

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Today, I said something to her that i had never said before... I told her that she was on the "naughty" list.  OH MY GOODNESS IT WAS AS IF THE EARTH ERUPTED!!  I might as well have had crushed her teddy bear!  I never saw her react this way!  EVER!  And I all I could think of was ... BINGO!! Finally! Something that gets her attention!

So I wonder how long I will be able to use the naughty or nice list for?

As I kiss her good night this evening, she asked me ..."Mommy am I still on the naughty list."  "No, Calley you are not."  I continued, "however, Calley if you do not do as you are told you are automatically put back on the "naughty" list.  "Yes, mommy.  I love you.  Sweet Dreams." Calley said ever so sweetly.

As I left her room, I ecstatically mouthed the word "YES!" as I clenched my fist to my chest and then immediately looked around in hopes that I did not jinx the use of the naughty or and nice list

May Peace be your gift at Christmas and your blessing all year through!  ~Author Unknown
May the spirit of Christmas bring you peace, The gladness of Christmas give you hope, The warmth of Christmas grant you love.    ~Author Unknown

Blessings to all!!

186 days to go...

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