There are days in raising a five year old little girl that often takes me back to my own adventures in growing up.
When Calley first came to me telling me that she wanted to get married and have babies she was about four years old. I was beside myself, holding back my giggles. However in a matter of seconds, which seemed more like hours... it was more like I was moving in slow motion scrambling through my brain making sure I said the right thing [so that I would not scar my little girl for the rest of her life.]
I was finally able to snap out of my stuper only to realize that Calley was waiting for a response from me. In a matter of seconds, I had my entire life flash in front of me with all the cockamamie lines my mother had once scarred me with.
From the proverbial "sex is dirty," which by the way messed me up for quite some time in my own personal relationships... to ... "there aren't friends," thank God I figured this one out on my own.
Knowing the importance of what my response may do to my little girl's form of being ... well, you be the judge. This is Calley's response to marriage...
First I have to go to college and become very smart, then I will meet a man like my daddy, we will fall in love, get married and have a family. But I have to go to college first.
Hopefully, there was and is nothing in that statement that will one day bite me in the behind.
I know that this is just one of many dances we will have together, especially that since then I have had to tap dance around the infamous question of how are babies born. (Thank God I had all my babies via c-section... this one was easy to answer honestly.) I just hope I come up with a more clever and spunky story for when she asks me how babies are made.
I remember as a little girl asking my mother questions, and her response to me was always you are too young to know, I will tell you when you are older. I remember arguing with her vehemently telling her I was old enough.
Well, can you guess what my thoughts on this today?
As far as I am concerned, if a child is old enough to ask the question he is old enough for a response.
I made a promise to myself as a teenager, that I would not repeat my parent's mistakes with my own children... that I would be the best mom ever. More importantly, I would always be honest with my children.
So, with that promise in mind, I will do my best to answer Calley's questions honestly, with a light humorous twist to it too.
Here's to hoping that I'll be able to think fast on my feet!
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. ~Charles R. Swindoll, The Strong Family.
Children keep us in check. Their laughter prevents our hearts from hardening. Their dreams ensure we never lose our drive to make ours a better world. They are the greatest disciplinarians known to mankind. ~ Queen Rania of Jordan, Hello Magazine
Blessings to all!!
188 days to go...
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