All my life I have loved birthdays!! Be it mine, a family member's or even friends and acquaintances... I love celebrating birthdays!! I'm really good at remembering birthdays... wink, wink.
Your birthday is your special day. The one day a year that you should be allowed to do anything you like, or not. The one day that you are queen for a day or princess, or you are treated like a king or one in training if that's the case. You definitely should be able to have your favorite dishes for your meals, all in moderation of course. All in all you should be able to do what you want (in moderation) and have your special day!
What I love to do as my special gift, is bake my family member or friend their favorite cake or dessert, from scratch of course. I am merely motivated by the fact that it is their special day, that and I love watching them enjoy their birthday cake. Big smile.
From Tres Leches to Cheese Cake, Red Velvet Cake, Triple Chocolate Cake and more!
As I've mentioned before, for some reason I am in the dog house with my youngest son. (I have no clue whatsoever why I am not being spoken too... BIG SAD FACE! and Living more than 1,700 miles away from my sons doesn't help our situation any, either.) Today was his twenty-first birthday. I would have LOVED to have made him his favorite foods, cake, and giving him his special day!
Today as heart wrenching as it was, I did have some insight and a new perspective at looking at life. The quote... If someone wants to be a part of your life, they'll make an effort to do so.... hits too close to home! And when you think about it and the person that doesn't want you in their life is your child... one word... O U C H ! ! ! !
However, I also read a wonderful post today... and what great timing too! The Mom Journal's post was so inspirational! I discovered through her post that I have been behaving like a carrot lately and I need to be coffee beans! I'm sure you are thinking I am crazy right about now, but if you can take a few minutes, five at most, and read her post. It'll be the best five minutes ever.
I know I have to toughen up... it's been a tough journey doing so... and I know there is always room for improvement! But seriously... when faced with adversity, there are times that I just buckle! I weaken... and my sons are one of those times. This is where I behave like a carrot... place it in boiling water and twenty minutes later you have soft carrots.
It's just been such a fragile relationship with both my sons, always wanting to do the right thing.. questioning myself constantly, worried constantly on what is going on... not only has it been exhausting, but it has been a long row to hoe!
All I have ever wanted and want, was and is the best for my sons, so much so that I have made what turned out to be bad decisions for all of us... BUT THAT IS ALL IN THE PAST!! And what does that mean? I can not do anything about it... However... I can do the best I can from here on out!
I'm going to start growing some beans and behave like coffee! Yup! After twenty minutes in boiling water... you get strong coffee!! wink, wink.
Basically the moral of the story is that given the same bad situation, what matters is how you handle yourself in the face of adversity. You can "soften" up or you can make "strong coffee"!
In honor of mothers everywhere...
Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ~ Proverbs 31:28 (NIV)
Blessings to all!!
105 days to go...
PS... for a, l & c. You are my sunshine(s). Happy Birthday Logan... I love you so much!
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