Friday, August 31, 2012

Day 450 ~ Watch Out World, It's Madea & Me ;)

Please read Day 448 and Day 449 for parts one and two...

My closing thoughts...  I am certainly not saying that everyone should go "clean house" per say.  {and} I am certainly not saying that everyone should confront one another.  What I am saying is that when needed we shouldn't turn away from helping one another.

These days everyone is hustling and bustling... everyone is going {more or less} 100 miles per hour... whether it's off to work... taking kids to school... doctor appointments... or... business appointments... everyone is off doing their part in this world.  

Sad thing is... most times we are soooo busy that we seldom, maybe even rarely, stop to help one another.  When was the last time you or anyone you know pulled over to help someone that was changing a tire? (providing it was safe)

I have literally witnessed an older woman struggling to pick up something she dropped... and three people walking by before the fourth person stopped to help her, I was the fifth. 

So when my husband found the wallet in the first situation... I would hope to think that given the same situation, people in general would display the same courtesy.  I am not saying to jump out of your vehicle in traffic or anything, be safe of course... just do whatever you can to see that "the wallet" gets back to who it belongs to before they go through the trouble of cancelling all the credit cards, and calling their employer.  

The second situation... I see this ALL THE TIME, people disrespecting not only others but social "rules."  Sure I could have minded my own business... however, if we all minded our own business then people would be cutting in lines left and right, leaving others to eventually do the same.  Is that really what we want to see?  {again} I am not saying to get yourself involved in confrontations-  I really do hate them... but when you see someone else that may need you to speak for them, then why not?  

Finally.. the last situation should not have happened.  The "mad" {as in "crazy"} couple SHOULD not have carried on like that.  Maybe... just maybe... a simple "ouch" should have been enough.  The young lady WAS very sorry and did apologized at least three times and was very nice and sincere about it. {It was obvious that something else was brewing there, an earlier argument or their coffee spilled or something, after all why react like that?}  You know what?...the Target employee must have looked away at the same exact time the man decided to once again to stop in place.  It wasn't as if he dropped something and stopped to pick it up either... he just kept stopped in conversation.

I want to add here If at anytime I felt as if I was not safe or my daughter... I would have kept to myself.      I will not jeopardize our safety.  I was near the cash registers, with plenty of people around us.  Being that we were feet away from these people, I was tired of my daughter having to listen to these bullies.  If it was not safe I would have gotten management or called 9-1-1 if needed.

Believe it or not I do not, I repeat I DO NOT like confrontations... hahahaha yeah right- no seriously... but what I like even less is to see injustices.

There was a time that society was more respectful of one another.  Men were not just men, they were gentlemen.  Women were true ladies.  Oh and all children were respectful of adults.  A time where if a person was able, they would give their seat up for the elderly, or to a woman with a handful of children.  This was a society. 

Or is it that there was respect in the air?  

©Tyler Perry as Madea (You Rock!)
Now I know that there is a "bad apple" here and there, no society is perfect.  Nonetheless, everyone for the most part had manners, respect.

It just hit me... I was watching a "Madea"... I really like that Tyler Perry, what talent- a true humanitarian in the making!  ... and it just hit me!!  Madea's character is reminding people of their manners.  I love this woman!!

So maybe I'm doing the same?  hahaha  

Sorry about that "a.d.d." moment ;) ... but, honestly? ... I just can't help myself.  I just have to remind people of their manners... someone has to.  Right?  hahaha - my shot of humor here folks!  Just an attempt.  lol.  But seriously... what's more important I have to help others... I feel the need to help others... and am not afraid to speak up.

Seriously... for as long as I can remember I've been helping others, coming to their aid.  I usually go for the underdog, the person in need.- can you tell?  ;)  

My seeing if everything was okay and informing the woman that she had pulled into the front of the line [if it was an emergency- well that's a different story] or my telling the couple that it was enough... was NOT what it seemed, it wasn't about that... 

It was about helping those that were parked in the car-line for at least 10 to 15 minutes... It was about helping the Target employee that was being bullied...  

{andYou know what... I would do it again. 

I/We were standing up for them... I/We were standing by them... I/We had their back.

I/We have your back!
Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.  ~ Philippians 2:4
[here's to you finding your... ]


I am second..

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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Cheryl said...

Hey Carla, I think I am out of the loop not to sure who Madea is, guess I should google it. I think you are right we need to stand up for others and promote manners, and I think it is possible to do that in a kind or fun way. I am terrible old fashion and miss the days of ladies and gentlemen. I teach my children to give up their seat, etc. they may be the only ones doing it but it is expected of them. Thanks for the post!

ReviewsSheROTE Pamela R said...

such and enlightening post THANKS-I know I can do better--and REALLY that who I have to worry about first.

Czjai Reyes-Ocampo said...

Yes, injustice - that's the perfect word for it. :)

Thank you for another lovely post, Carla. Looking forward to more! :)

Not Your Ordinary Agent said...

I agree that it's very important to help others. If you walk past an elderly person who has dropped something and needs assistance, you weren't raised correctly. Respect others and they will respect you.

Karen Dawkins said...

Oh Carla,
You are so sensitive and kind. It's a blessing and a curse. I'm glad you choose to use it as a blessing. <3


Anonymous said...

Girl you never cease to amaze me with your blessed posts, you are awesome, Oh I love Madea also!

mail4rosey said...

We were at the lake this summer and a boater's boat got stuck bringing it in. There were TONS of people around and no one stopped to help. I was oh so proud when my 19-yr old jumped out of the water and made the trek over to help them get the boat on the trailer.

Totally agreeing that being nice IS the thing to do.