Day 509 ~ Speaking Kindness (XXII)

Day 22 of the Husband Encouragement Challenge
courtesy of ReviveOurHearts.com

"Let your speech always be with grace." (Collosians 4:6a) 

• You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband . . . or to anyone else, about your husband.
• Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your husband . . . and to someone else, about your husband!

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If all my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I've said about him, what would they think of my husband?" Do you need to change the filter? Do you talk positively about your husband to others . . . or do you complain and criticize?

Your speech should reflect 1 Cor. 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never "rejoice in iniquity" (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband's faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area—be wary of sharing barbed "prayer requests." Remember, "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Pet. 4:8b). Present your husband before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a "good word" for your spouse.

Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may come back to him—and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never tearing him down.

Don't forget: you are always criticizing—or encouraging—before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace. 

Day 22 ! . . .
I'm going to keep this simple and not let it get too wordy.  

Kindness... 

I can't tell you how many times kindness has nipped me in the butt!  LOL!  

Seriously now... 

I think the hardest thing to do is to be kind to someone who is downright mean.

I am definitely not speaking of my husband... he is far too kind.

I really don't have to go out of my way to speak kind of him... especially when everyone else already is doing so.

My husband has done well for himself.  He is far too kind and has always been known as such.

If anything, I sometimes think "what the heck is he doing married to me?!"

Oh... let me get something straight here... I am not mean.  I just have been hurt so much that I have taken my hurt out on others.  "Scapegoating."  I can't be more honest than that.

However... I tend to go out of my way to protect myself and my family and am far more on the defense than he is.

My husband is kind, loving and very giving.  He has not seen not even 10% of the cruelty that I have seen.  He never thinks or looks at things or people as I do.  I am always very skeptical and he is so trusting.

With that said... this is was makes us so different.

He grew up in a loving, supportive family... divorce and all.

I on the other hand, saw nothing but spite, revenge and ugliness... 

BIG DIFFERENCE.

So when it comes to building my husband up... well... his actions have already taken care of that.

[here's to you finding your... ]

Peace...

I am second..

... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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