Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Day 510 ~ Kindness, A Substitution for Anger (XXIII)

"Let your speech always be with grace." (Collosians 4:6a) 
You're moving toward the home stretch of your 30-day challenge! Just a reminder of what you've committed: 
  • You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband . . . or to anyone else, about your husband.
  • Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your husband . . . and to someone else, about your husband!
"In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works..."  (Titus 2:7a)
Does the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a pleasant exercise in genuine Christ-likeness in your home? You are only scratching the surface of ways to encourage your mate. Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more of these traits that you see in him.
Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to help him with disciplines he has not yet developed - but this does not include nagging. You can keep him organized.
Whatever the need, you can be your husband's cheerleader, encouraging him when he wants to give up.
Day 23 ! . . .
I'm going to keep this simple and not let it get too wordy.  

"Kindness..." {. . .  is so tough at a time of anger that two days are needed to cover this subject!"}

Being kind with your words even if you are upset is the hardest thing to do!  Try it.  I have.

The great lesson that I have learned through this challenge has become easier and easier... or  rather yet in the neighborhood of being second nature.

Additionally I have learned that being kind through the course of a disagreement is a whole lot better than getting upset.  Your point comes across clearer.   And the end result being more pleasant.

Our home is calmer.  Peaceful.

Now. This is not to say that I have not gotten uber angry, because I have.  It is just the way I express my anger.  [which at first was very challenging]

Being angry and trying to find kind words to express yourself is an art.  To sit and sort through your feelings and then translate them to kind words is soothing in itself.  Even funny at times.  

More importantly is the way my husband is responding.  What once seemed to be the act of pulling teeth... has now become a day at the candy store.  If that makes any sense.

Heck... I just try to have a more comical, gentler way of expressing myself.  It sure is more welcomed, that's for sure!

[here's to you finding your... ]


I am second..
... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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