Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Day 356 ~ "Marriage"

What I Learned About Me... from A to Z
What have I learned about myself this past year {blogging}..?  hmmmm... First off... I would like to make sure you know up front... I never had blogged before until I started this blog 349 days ago.  Secondly... I never intended on learning anything.  HAHA! LOL!  No but seriously... It wasn't my intention...   Check out what my intention(s) were/are here.
So here goes... What I Learned About Me... from A to Z

"M" is for...  Marriage.     
Not that I did not know about marriage before blogging... I did.

What I do want to do is share a few things I have learned along the way.  Seems once you have survived an unhealthy relationship... you know how to avoid the same and strive to living a healthy one.

First off and most importantly is to "choose your battles" ... basically don't sweat the small stuff.  Included with this line of thought is "give and take".  

If you must fight... please fight fair.  Cursing and name calling are definitely NOT PERMITTED.  Words may be forgiven, yet never forgotten.  You can never take them back... once said, that's it.  So... set boundaries to fighting fair when you first are committed to one another and stick to them. 

Never go to sleep mad.  I know this is a tough one.. been there done that!  The goal here would be ... if you must, walk away... go for a walk... take a tour of your yard... cool off.  Take a look at the argument from your husband or wife's point of view. 

Please... there's definitely NO room for pride in marriage either... none whatsoever.  You must be able to apologize when deemed necessary [go on suck it up~ life's too short... especially if you know you're wrong] and no gloating on the receiving end either.  {it takes courage to apologize... don't you think?  last thing you want to hear is gloating.}

Don't forget... always kiss your love one good-bye when you're off to work.  {and} always ... always... tell them you love them each time you see them {and say good-bye}.

Take it from someone that has been married more than once {and has seen and been in my share of bad relationships} ... it's the little things in life that matter.  

We aren't here forever... let's love with all the desire to be loved.  

Let's be  married  the way we desire to be  married .

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
~ Mignon McLaughlin

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.  ~1 Peter 4:8 

Tomorrow...  What I Learned About Me... from A to Z ... the letter(s) "N" & "O". 

[here's to you finding your... ]

9 days to go... {single digits!!...}
read about this count down in my "About my Blog" page

... for a, l & c.  you are my sunshine(s).

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Czjai Reyes-Ocampo said...

Aww... what a heartwarming post! And I agree on all points! :)

Aliy Hurd said...

Loved the post. great suggestions for a road to happiness

Mrs. Settles said...

" Let's be married the way we desire to be married"
What wonderful advice.
So many times we want things our way. It is about compromise.

Wonderful post, thanks!


Anne @ Green Eggs and Moms said...

Aww these are wonderful tips, Carla! Did your husband read them?

mrsmomx6 said...

Awww...that made my eyes water...how sweet and I totally agree!

mrsmomx6 said...

Awww...that made me teary eyed. That was sweet and I totally agree!