"N" is for No. That's right. I said no.
How many times have we heard this little word in such a BIG way?
There were times in my life that I was devastated by its simple sound... especially when I couldn't get that new dress, sleepover a friend's house, let alone when I couldn't go see "that" boy I really liked.
no. No. NO. No way. Not a chance. Heck no. Hell no. What part of no do you not understand? The "n" or the "o"? No, no, no, no, no!
I see it in my daughter Calley (5-1/2) when I say no to her, she cries and behaves as if her world is coming to an end. This is over watching tv or getting a sweet. I can not even begin to imagine what she will be like when she's 16 and I say no. LOL! I think I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
As I grew older, the stakes grew higher. Not getting into that "perfect" school, or I didn't get the "perfect" job, or the so called "perfect" guy ( which, by the way I am totally over it now).
I don't know about you, but I heard it plenty. Even so, I survived.
I learned in early in life that I was a people please-er, and I did it to be liked. Even though I would have prior personal commitments or plans, if someone needed some help, a hand or anything done... I was the sucker to ask. LOL!
There were plenty of times I would find myself scrambling to get everything done, often doing for others before taking care of myself. Until came the day that my brother said, "it's okay to say no." Scratching my head, I repeated... "It's okay to say no? It's okay to say no. It's okay to say, No."
Funny... even with my hearing it almost on a daily basis, why was I not able to say no when deemed?
I don't know about you, but not being able to say no at times has put me in some tight predicaments. SO much so, that I had to train myself by saying, "it's okay to say no" over and over again.
What a revelation! I jumped on the band wagon right away. Prioritizing, evaluating and helping others more on my terms. I still have a hard time saying no, but when I do manage to stick to my guns... I feel fine! By saying no the world is not coming to an end nor is the sky falling because of it... and people do like me. (at least those who matter!).
Did you know that "No" is a complete sentence? No. It is.
Blogging A to Z Challenge April 2012... What will "O" have for us tomorrow?
Blessings to all!!
52 days to go... (This is starting to become bitter-sweet)
... for a, l & c. You are my sunshine(s).
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