Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Day 63 ~ My Fight Continues!! ... Part Deux

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To answer the question at hand... I WAS VERY STUPID!!  

I was very stupid to think that the man I had married, the man I had loved (and supposedly loved me back), the man I had trusted, the man I bore children to... YES that man... I was stupid to think that I could believe in him and trust him.

One word... HA!

Sooo... I rolled up my sleeves and searched for an attorney that would take my case, after all I was being accused of un-motherly acts!!  

As my attorney and I started to scratch the surface of what was really going on, I found out that I needed to get a Guardian Ad Litem (guardian ad litem is a guardian appointed by a court to protect the interests of a minor or incompetent in a particular matter.)

A G.A.L. was appointed by the court and before the ink could dry... I made the "call" to her to get the ball rolling immediately.  However, it wasn't that easy.  There were hoops to jump through and obstacles to go around.

Before the G.A.L. would even see me, she stated that I had to take a lie detector test.  So the G.A.L. gave me the number of a specialist, and I called her only to find out that my appointment would not be for another six months!  YES SIX MONTHS!!!  My heart sank!!  

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When I made my appointment I found out that not only would I have to take a lie detector test, but I also had to take an MMPI test (Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory test -  is the most frequently used personality test in the mental health fields. This assessment, or test, was designed to help identify personal, social, and behavioral problems in psychiatric patients. The test helps provide relevant information to aid in problem identification, diagnosis, and treatment planning for the patient) along with another test... both tests took me nearly four hours to take.  

Let me explain a little more... it wasn't the actual tests... or was it?  My person, my ability to be a mother, who I was and who I am was being questioned... and on top of it all... until the tests were taken and the results were read, I could not see my boys!!!  I was guilty until proven innocent.

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The results were finally in... I was honest and I was normal.  I passed all tests.  When it was all said and done... it took NINE MONTHS!!!

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The most heart wrenching part of it all was that at one point during the nine month ordeal, probably five or six months into it, I went to McDonald's for a bite to eat and was stopped dead in my tracks!!!  My boys were inside eating with the "new" step mother.  

YES... the "man" didn't even wait for the sheets to cool off or the ink to dry on "our" divorce papers.  Gee... how did that happen?  Had he been cheating on me with her too?  Who knows... and at this point, frankly WHO CARES!!!  Not me!

I froze!  Then I ran back to my car... and cried for what seemed forever!  

to be continued...  

Revised March 29, 2012...  this has been a little more difficult to share than what I once thought...  Therefore... please see Day 295 for the continuation of my loss.

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.   Elizabeth Stone
Never let the odds keep you from doing what you know in your heart you were meant to do.   H. Jackson Brown, Jr. 

Blessings to all!!

302 days to go.

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