Thursday, March 15, 2012

Day 281 ~ Doing Our Share

I wanted to start tonight's post by saying that I really sincerely am grateful to all the kind comments I received on my post yesterday.  Honestly.. I am not sharing the way I feel to get your attention.  No one implied that either.  I am just trying to figure all of this out.  Maybe, you are too?

My last two posts have really been on my mind... more so the way I have been feeling has been weighing very heavy on me.  The number one reason is for myself, my husband and daughter.  Especially my daughter.  

She doesn't need to see her mommy moping all the time.. what kind of life is that?  Pretty sucky if you ask me!  Good way to teach her how to cope with life!  
How to cope with life =  curl up and do nothing!
Yeah, right!  I think not!!  I have to teach my daughter to be strong, and move on!  Now.. if I could only do that for myself.

For different reasons both our daughters and sons benefit from a good healthy self esteem and a good and healthy self confidence... and their relationship with each of their parents are detrimental to their psyche.  How we as their parents handle life's obstacles is a life's lesson to our children.  We have to remember to be good role models, often putting aside personal feelings in order to do so.

Having a healthy self esteem and self confidence can help each and everyone one of us in one way or another.  We can teach our children to be positive.. and in turn then improving as individuals, becoming better spouses, in turn being better parents, better role models, better communicators... the possibilities are endless!  Sounds perfect, huh?  It is possible... if we all do our share.

Today started out to be gloomy, as it was yesterday.  Playing over and over in my head... what is going on in my life.  Wondering how to fix everything.  Wanting to make everything better.

Tonight, I was reminded... I was humbled... we all have our own problems behind our respective front doors.  Our own respective demons that we deal with.  And not to lessen anything that I may be going through... but, all I can say is that it really made me feel good tonight to be able to be there for a friend.  

Speaking from my heart, I did my best to comfort my friend (withholding her name in order to respect her privacy) in her time of need.  Being careful not to put my size nine in my mouth by saying the wrong thing (my mouth tends to get me into trouble, speaking before checking in with my brain!)  Exchanging a little of our pasts... learning of the similar roads we have traveled... having a genuine moment, sharing personal experiences... creating a bond from life's common occurances... finding a soul sister, if you will.   Thank you for that moment... the moment of being able to help, a moment of feeling needed.  A moment that helped me more than you know.  Thank you for sharing in your life with me.  

Always remember...

Friends are like stars. You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.  ~ unknown author.
If someone wants to be a part of your life, they will make an effort to be in it.  ~ unknown author. 
I dedicate my post this evening to my friend... here's to you!  here's to life!!
  
Blessings to all!!

84 days to go...

PS... for a, l & c.  You are my sunshine(s).  

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4 comments:

Sarah said...

I think sometimes we help ourselves more when we help others -- I have trouble remembering that myself most of the time, though, lol. I very much like the second quote, it fits my life very well at the moment!

Nishana said...

Well said. Second quote, yup how true is that!

leigh said...

Hang in there xoxox One thing that we can be sure of is change - nothing stays the same. Things might be rough now but there is some sun shine waiting for you around the corner. COntinue to be a good role model to your kids and a wonderful friend to others, but remember to take time for yourself to recharge xoxo
Leigh @oneandoneequalstwinfun.com

Leslie said...

2 words but they may be the hardest thing to ever do. It doesn't matter what you're stuck on, if you can't get past it, you feel like you never will. just gotta keep that head up and keep going.....